First, not clear with what you are looking for. Are you open to serious relationships if you feel right? Or are you just looking for tinder for couples? You should be clear with your partner in regard to this question. If you are looking on 3sum apps online, write that clearly in your profile. If you are hunting in real life, you should also point it out to your partner and make sure she is okay with that. Don’t be vague in this question, because there are many people looking for hookups while they are also interested in long-term relationships. If you are being ambiguous in this, people might get the wrong idea. If they develop serous feelings for you while you are only for one night hookup, feelings will get hurt. We should reduce the damage as much as possible.
Forget protection. No matter in what circumstances, as long as you are not looking for pregnancy with your husband, you should always use protection. More specifically, condoms. Usually, you are hooking up with someone you don’t know very well, some of them even may be strangers from online swingers app. It is absolutely necessary to use condom protection. It can protect you away from unplanned pregnancy and also STDs. When it comes to health, it can never be too careful. I once was told a true experience that a friend of my friend caught HIV from sleeping with a girl whom he found on 3sum apps. Without any protection, they spent a night together. The girl didn’t know she had HIV after she was diagnosed two weeks after they slept with each other.
Do something you are not comfortable with. Being generous and considerate are great quality in relationships, but not so much in one night hookups. Of course, you still need to be considerate. But that doesn’t mean you should always put other’s needs before yours and it doesn’t mean you should do things that you don’t feel comfortable. I have another friend who told me this. He met a girl on 3sum apps. She was interested in BDSM, while my friend wasn’t. He tried it before and he was not into it. However, to please and satisfy his hookup partner, he decided to give it another shot. But playing BDSM didn’t turn him on, he couldn’t even get hard. He told me that it was like a torture until she finally gave up on him and had a normal hookup. Even though they did hookup, the experience will be stained with a bad memory. Therefore, never try anything you are not comfortable with, because if you are not happy, no one will be.